Today on this Woman's Day I'm not here to boast of my genre something like "Do you know why God Created Man 1st and then Woman? Cause you need a rough Draft before creating a master piece." This is one of the messages I got today.Total crap,ain't it? I won't be bragging here about my "Greatness" like “I’m a cute daughter,I’m a sweet sister,I’m a lovely lover, I’m to-be-a-darling wife ,I’m to-be-an-adorable mother so on and on and on”.Neither would I speak of “the heavenly fire that kindles my heart and soul”,that I’m a source of immense strength, that I could move mountains,that I could touch the sky,that I’m ever smiling,ever tempting,ever kind,ever patient, ,uncomplaining, compromising dot dot dot.
Instead,today I earnestly wish for something.It’s not that I’m against the aforesaid ideas(Infact I would love to be so) but why always such obligations?Why so many expectations?Why idealizations?Why stereotypifications?Why can’t I just celebrate Myself without considering the roles I play in other people’s life?I also have the same set of ideas,ambitions and emotions as the other ‘humans’ (read men)have.So if they can why can’t I live my dreams,why can’t I make mistakes,why can’t I be selfish,and why can’t I complain?Why?I also have got just one life,no?
I’m always of the belief that men and women are different and equal.Two sides of the same coin,we complete each other.God created us that way.We should appreciate this difference.But it’s really sad that we are always verbally attacking each other to project that one is superior to other.Grow up people!!It’s high time.
Well,here’s my wishlist on this Woman’s day for all days to come:
I don’t want to be compared to anyone or against any benchmark.
I don’t want to be judged based on some pseudo- standards and preconceived ideas.
I just want to live my life with peace and independence, doing small things that make me happy and the world a better place. I want freedom to choose and decide for myself.
In my small way I want to be a part of this world and make small little contributions.
I don’t want to be discriminated against or be subject to bias.
I don’t want reservations or special privileges but I don’t want to be deprived of my basic rights either.
I have a right to say no.I have a right to be heard.
I want that I could walk/drive on the street without having someone wink/ whistle/ hoot/ hum/ stare.
I want that I could cycle down a long quiet road, whistling in the rain, enjoying the drops on my bare arms and legs, without worrying that it’s getting dark.
I want that I could travel loads and loads with mine girl-friends,without being ‘unsafe’
I want that at some 1:45 AM in the night I could go to the terrace and play my guitar,whenever desired.
I want that I could say what I want, when I want, without people going ‘haaawwww!’
I want that I could wear what I want without aunties looking at me like I’m a bad indecent girl or that I have no morals or whatever.
I want to be accepted as I am…I want to celebrate the idea that I am a Woman.
Nothing more,Nothing less!!
PS:This is not exclusively my writeup.I read this wishlist here and here,and hence the post.